AKA the cunning linguist; AKA el lingüista astuto; AKA Thomas the Tongue Engine; AKA le linguiste adroit; AKA il linguista abile; AKA the cunning linguist; AKA el lingüista astuto; AKA Thomas the Tongue Engine; AKA le linguiste adroit; AKA il linguista abile;

Wednesday, 18 December 2013

e[lust] #53

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Rope-Tree-Feature-Image  Photo courtesy of  Kinketc
Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust].  Want to be included in e[lust] #54? Start with the newly updated rules, come back January 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~
~ Readers Choice from  Sexbytes ~
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Wednesday, 4 December 2013

The Goodbye Kiss

If there is one thing I have learned from my punting time, it is that open, sexual relationships, whether 'commercial', buddies, casual, poly-amorous or anything else, must be unselfish.  To be open enough to enter into a close intimate ‘relationship/friendship’ of this sort, we must be equally open enough to let each other move on when the time comes.

I have written about my relationship with T before in "Booty Buddies?".

During some of our pillow talks, she mentioned that she had started dating someone and I said that she just had to ‘say the word’ and I would step aside.

Well a couple of months passed where for various reasons we did not see each other.  Then I dropped in to her home just before Christmas with a hamper of goodies.  She welcomed me with a chaste kiss, and I knew instantly that my time had come.  We spent the rest of the afternoon sipping chai lates, sitting in recliners on her front porch overlooking her cottage garden and the sun slowly sinking over the bay.  We talked very opening about our relationship (she always said that we were a pair of survivors), the good times we had had.  We talked about her recent loss of her mother, her health issues, looking for a new career, the side effects of contraceptive implants, my own home life issues, and their future plans together.

As the sun touched the horizon, I collected my few belongings stashed in her bedroom.  She expressed the hope that the ‘girls’ back at the parlour would ‘look after me’.  We hugged farewell at my car and with a final peck on the cheek I drove home in the sunset.

Bon Voyage through the rest of your life T with your new man.

Sunday, 17 November 2013

e[lust] #52

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Secretlysensous  Photo courtesy of  Secretly Sensuous
Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust].  Want to be included in e[lust] #53? Start with the newly updated rules, come back December 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

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Sunday, 3 November 2013

A Funny Thing Happened on the Way to the Bedroom

Whilst "Laughter is the Best Medicine" I think it squeezes in just ahead of "Sex" because Laughter can be practised any where, any time, in public.  But laughter and sex have a lot in common in that they both release those 'feel good' hormones and endorphins.  To be sure there are times, especially in a one-off encounter, where the sex is immediately hot and lustful, but in more regular sex situations, 'fun' and 'play' are key ingredients to good sex and allow the good feelings to continue after the 'come shot'.  This is why role-playing and fantasies are so popular because they add to the 'fun' in exploring 'life' outside our hum-drum day-to-day situations.

I was reminded of the above recently when catching up with Miss A whom I haven't seen for over a year.  She uses a game of 'punishing' little infractions. On the way up to the bedroom, she stumbled on the stairs, flashing her knickers, and then said, "Were you peeking up my dress? You will have to be punished for that".   Similarly, there will be 'punishment' for 'touching myself' in the shower, and looking at her boobs as she undresses.  Typical punishment might be to make me stand in the 'naughty corner' whilst she sucks me off.  All just playful fun, no real bondage, although once she did tie my hands to the bed-head with her stockings and draped her fragrant knickers over my face so I couldn't see her 'punish' me by having her way with me.

Another lady, 'O Gracious One', when she found out I wrote a BLOG, admitted to having fun making up rhymes.  So we created a game of 'dirty ditties' and 'fractured fairy tales', taking turns to create a new line starting from an old nursery rhyme, etc.  So "Goldie Locks", "Little Red Riding Hood" et al provided many fun rhymes.  If a particular 'dirty ditty' had suitable actions, these were acted out as we went.  I must say her rollicking laughs as she 'rode a cock horse' sent wonderful ripples right through our connection.  Sadly, we have lost contact - I really miss those fun times.  I wish I had had a recorder to capture some of those ditties.  One I remember, went:-

"Georgie Porgie full of fun,
Licked the girls and made them come.
With lady come on his chin,
He said with a grin,
Oh what a good boy am I"

Although I am a DOM now, I am still a kid at heart, and 'play time' is my favourite time.  Which reminds me, we certainly gave "Girls and boys come out to play" a jolly rodgering!

So next time someone calls me a 'fuck wit', I will take it as a compliment.

Monday, 21 October 2013

e[lust] #51

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potter  Photo courtesy of  Property of Potter
Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust].  Want to be included in e[lust] #52? Start with the newly updated rules, come back November 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

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Friday, 4 October 2013

To Punt or Not To Punt, That is The Question

To punt, or not to punt, that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of celibate matrimony,
Or to take arms against a sea of scruples,
And by opposing end them? To fidelity: to begging;
No more; and by a fuck to say we end
The heart-ache and the thousand natural aches
That flesh is heir to, 'tis a consummation
Devoutly to be wish'd. To fuck, to come;
To come: perchance to extacy; ay, there's the rub.

(With apologies to The Bard)
NB: 'Punt': to take a (monatory) risk or gamble;  in this context to take a gamble to pay for a sex worker.
Fortunately, here in Australia, Sex Work is legal, highly regulated and safe, so the only "risk" is whether you will get the quality of sex you paid for or desired.

Saturday, 17 August 2013

e[lust] #49


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cheekyminx  Photo courtesy of  Love Hate Sex Cake
Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust].  Want to be included in e[lust] #50? Start with the newly updated rules, come back September 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!
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Wednesday, 24 July 2013

Why Doesn't She Respond to Cunnilingus?

Dear WDSRC,

I saw your Google query on your visit to this blog.  I hope my past posts were of help.  But I thought it worth a full response because I am sure many others have similar problems.

The simple answer is - use your tongue - TALK TO HER!

Does she want you 'down there' at all?

Does she enjoy being touched and if so, where?

Does she enjoy self masturbation?  Some ladies just cannot bring themselves to have oral sex at all, either giving or receiving. Respect her.

Have you asked her how she likes it? Ask for directions!

Does she have any "turn offs"?  See "Cunnilingus Don'ts"!

What responses were you expecting?  Every woman's response is different. (See "Cunnilingus Responses") If you go down with high expectations, then you are highly likely to be disappointed.  

Cunnilingus is NOT fore-play - there needs to be a lot of play before you go down.  An earlier post, "Cunnilingus 101", covered a lot of basics around techniques.

There was a phrase used in old-fashioned marriage vows, "With my body I thee worship", that is worth revisiting.  Good "sex" is a 'whole of body and mind' experience by/for both partners.

Are you both enjoying yourselves?  Then enjoy the ride and be surprised at what might happen!

Monday, 20 May 2013

Cunnilingus - Responses

To wrap up my trilogy on Cunnilingus, starting with "Cunnilingus 101" then "Cunnilingus Don'ts", I thought it was time to write a follow-up post about the female responses to cunnilingus.  Again, like the original post, this is purely one man's observations, so additional feedback, especially from lady readers, would be very much appreciated.

Of the dozens and dozens of ladies I have had the pleasure and delight of "dining on", every one responded differently.  I will try to roughly group them by similarity of response.

The Unexpected

With many professional Ladies of Pleasure, orgasm can be a wearying drain on a day full of clients.  Thus many refuse cunnilingus outright.  I remember one lovely young thing agreeing, but saying that she probably wouldn't be able to cum - I was delighted to have her bucking in under 5 minutes.  Another neophyte didn't even expect that she could or was "allowed" to cum in a commercial arrangement - she squealed with surprise and delight when she did.

One A Day

Not all ladies are able to be multi-orgasmic.  One special buddy of mine, could only ever have one orgasm per day.  So we timed our meetings so that that one was a mighty good one.

Vocality

Vocal response during orgasm varies from a small grunt and sigh, through "Yes! Yes! Yes! Oh God, Yes!", to the "screamer"s - one lady I saw was nicknamed "Firecracker" - she went off so loudly that everybody in the place knew it.  Some others wanted to, but bit on their wrist to hold it back.  But beware, her verbal response is easily exaggerated.

Encouragement

When a lady is really starting to appreciate your ministrations you will receive encouraging signs.  She will be pushing back into you.  I have had ladies who I could swear their vulva was kissing me back.  Then there are those that give directions - take notice - she knows what she likes so let her guide you.  Then there are ladies that grab my head and pull my face hard against their cunt, twisting and squirming their pelvis against my face  - just be careful she doesn't suffocate you.

The Linctus of Love

Probably the first obvious response is lubricating.  Like all the responses listed her, the degree will vary enormously from lady to lady and time to time.  But from my experience at least, gushing or squirting is highly unlikely from cunnilingus alone.  I would certainly like to hear if your experience differs.

The Lichter Scale

I have had enough ladies 'in my face' to know that the intensity of the female orgasm is very much an individual thing and that 'stronger' does not automatically imply 'better', so I won't put any numbers on the Lichter scale.  I have ladies who's orgasms are a ripple through their body.  And I've had ladies who's orgasms seize their body totally stiff - pity me if I have their legs around my neck.  There are orgasms that are a single contraction with perhaps a single after-spasm. On the other hand, I have had ladies who contracted repeatedly, perhaps up to a dozen times.

Controlled Release

Occasionally I meet a lady who knows her own body very well, an obvious player of her fine instrument.  Although technically on the receiving end, she controls and paces her response, not allowing herself to tip over the edge of full orgasm.  She prefers to rumble along a plateau of pre-orgasm, then only let herself go when she is good and ready for maximum effect.

Clitoral vs Vaginal Orgasm

This is one of those topics that is more meaningful to ladies than to we mere males.  It took me 2 years of 'research' before I encountered a practical demonstration.  This particular lady was quite multi-orgasmic.  After her third or fourth (clitoral) orgasm, I added some digital stimulation of her G-spot to my cunnilingus.  Suddenly there was a deep-down, almost rumbling sort of contractions that built up and up to a full body orgasm.    Her response was "Oh God, I needed that.  I haven't had one of those for months".

The Blossoming

One of the most beautiful sights for a cunnilinguist, is the blossoming of your ladies vulva.  Again, the degree of response is highly individual and highly dependant on the lady's personal anatomy (go and read "Pussy Pride" if you are not fully aware of the wide diversity of vaginal anatomy).  Like an erectile response, her inner labia engorge with blood, swelling until they spread the outer labia and 'pop' out like a flower bud opening.  By this time, her vagina is gaping open, calling to you, "Come and fuck me".  (The particular lady I visualise with fond memories, was coincidentally a "one-a-day" lady).

Bon Appetit

Well that's enough for now. Your feedback and sharing your own experiences would be greatly appreciated.
All that's left to say, is "Bonne appetit!".

Cunnilingus Don'ts

With the popularity of my "Cunnilingus 101" post, and after discussing it with my buddy, Oh Gracious One (OGO), and she telling me of some of her turn-offs, I thought it time I wrote about the "Don'ts" of cunnilingus.

No Means No!

Even in a "commercial" arrangement, this still applies - this is a negotiable option only.  And it doesn't just mean a verbal "No"!  If your lady pushes you away or expresses discomfort or dislike, that's still "No!".  Proceeding with unwanted cunnilingus is "Rape" in some jurisdictions, or at least "Sexual assault".  Reread my original post  and RESPECT your ladies wishes.

Don't Bite

I could hardly believe OGO when she said that she had men bite her lady bits.  Firm nibbling with your lips perhaps if she agrees, but biting - ouch.  How would you like it if she sunk her teeth into the tip if your cock? Oh, you do?  Its all about preferences - respect each others.

Beware Stubble Rash

Facial hair, like public hair, is a choice and acquired taste.  The two-day-old stubble might look "manly" but even 5-o'clock shadow can be quite irritating on a ladies sensitive bits.  I always try and have a fresh shave before visiting my ladies.  I did forget once and my lady told me it was rough - so I placed my hands on her inner thighs so my stubbly cheeks don't touch her skin and a wonderful time was had by all.

Don't be a Pussy

OGO told me that one of her pet peeves is the man that lightly flicks his tongue on her bits.  She likes her cunnilingus full on, like Deep French Kissing on the mouth.  Again, find out what each individual lady likes.

Oral Higeine

No-one like kissing anyone with halitosis.  But with cunnilingus, the risk of infection is higher.  So gum disease, bleeding gums or cold sores on the lips means cunnilingus is off the menu, just like if she has her period.  But kissing of her erogenous zones, ears, neck breasts, inner thighs or mons can be a real turn-on.

Long Nails are Not In

If you plan on searching for her "G" spot, your finger nails had better be clipped and filed.

Your "Visiting Kit"

When visiting my ladies, I have my own "visiting kit" - razor, tooth brush, mouth wash, deodorant, nail clippers, massage oil and condoms.  Be a good scout and Be Prepared, and you will hear "Don't stop!", instead of "DON'T!".
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